Sincere Devotion (Ikhlas) and Honor (Izzah) as Protective Factors Against People-Pleasing Behavior: An Islamic Perspective on Authenticity and Adolescent Well-Being

Sukma Jaya, Abdul Haris

Abstract


This study examines people-pleasing among Muslim adolescents, characterized by an excessive tendency to seek social approval, particularly in the digital era dominated by social media influences. Such tendencies may undermine intrinsic motivation, reduce autonomy, and hinder the development of a healthy self-identity. This research reviews psychological literature using a qualitative-conceptual approach, including Deci and Ryan's Self-Determination Theory and Erikson's development theory. It integrates them with Islamic teachings on the values of ikhlas (sincerity) and izzah (honor/dignity). The analysis reveals that ikhlas shifts adolescents' orientation from seeking human approval to seeking the pleasure of Allah, thereby strengthening psychological resilience against social pressures. Meanwhile, Izzah reinforces self-worth rooted in faith rather than external validation, fostering healthy self-confidence. The findings emphasize that ikhlas and izzah are in harmony with modern psychological principles, adding a transcendental spiritual dimension that enhances adolescent well-being. This study recommends the active role of parents, educators, and communities in instilling these values through Islamic parenting, character education curricula, and guidance in social media use. Thus, integrating modern psychology and Islamic values can serve as a holistic framework for nurturing resilient, authentic, and potential-driven Muslim youth as part of the golden generation.

Keywords


Ikhlas; Izzah; People-pleasing, Muslim Adolescents; Islamic Psychology; Character Education.

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